0 Checks And Balances

Highly defective daters or HDDs make a lot of mistakes.I want to talk about the final four habits of highly defective daters. Highly defective daters focus on a few features. But they do something that gets them into trouble. They fail to pop the trunk. They fail to look inside the trunk and examine the baggage.

All of us have baggage. Ladies, I know your hottie seems so perfect, so unbelievable but in reality he is Samsonite Sam, loaded down with suitcases. Guys, I know that babe that you have your eye on, that girl that you have been dating, looks like the ulti-mate. She could be but in reality she is Louis Vitton Linda. She is weighted down with a bunch of baggage. And HDDers fail to look in trunks, on luggage racks, or they fail to recognize those U-Haul trailers that a lot of people are pulling loaded with all of this stuff.
Let me say, once again, that we all are loaded down with luggage. You have baggage and so do I. Baggage doesn't really cause problems unless we pretend like we don't have it or unless we are unwilling to process it. That is when it can become a blunder.

There are a couple of bags that we ought to really check out. The first bag is a bag called the family bag. We all have this one. People who do spouse selection God's way will open bags and examine the contents. They will really check out the family situation. Why? Because the family dynamic wields the most power, it has the most influence, on who you are and who I am. That is where our self-esteem was formed. That is where our value system was learned. That is where we understood what marriage was all about, church life was all about. The family formula is major. Make sure you take some time out of your busy dating schedules to open the bag and look through the contents. Discuss your family's high points and low points. Talk about them.

It is also important to deal with the family bag because the family bag is the bag that causes a lot of dings and scratches and dents in our lives. No one here came from his or her original family unscathed. No one here emerged from imperfect parents looking like this Mercedes Benz. We have been banged a little bit, bruised a little bit. Your parents were imperfect.

Ed Young Jr. says that My parents were not perfect. And their parent's parents weren't perfect. And too many times we have Blaming Boomers or Generation Excusers who love to say that they are the way they are because their mother put their diapers on too tight or the nursery was painted the wrong color.

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