0 Keeping the Fire Burning in the Marriage

When prince charming and the princess decide to live happily ever after they set goals on where they will live, how many children to have, where to vacation, and how to save for a raining day. What most princes and princesses don't do is set goals for how to keep the fire burning in their marriage. They assume that when they get in their late seventies they still will be walking hand in hand in the park? If you want to keep the fairy tale alive, I have ten goals which will assist you in keeping the fire burning in your marriage.

Goal #1
To always kiss your partner hello or goodbye. Not a little peck on the cheek but a real honest to goodness kiss with all the passion you had in the first months of your love affair. It should last at least 3 - 5 seconds.

Goal # 2
To use words of gratitude please and thank you. Simple enough, but with busy schedules, between work, kids, laundry, soccer practice, dinner, the dog, and the leaky water heater, we sometimes forget being polite is as important as who's turn is it to take out the garbage.

Goal # 3
To say it, write it, whisper it, any way you can think of, say I Love You to your partner every chance you get. Stick a little note in their lunch, text or IM them, or leave them a message on their voice mail. Try to say it at least 5 times a day not including when you go to bed or when you leave the house.

Goal # 4
To send your partner flowers for no reason. Every woman and almost every man loves plants or flowers. Moreover they love the comments they get from their coworkers reminding them how lucky they are to have someone as thoughtful as YOU. Don't wait for a birthday or anniversary, do it just because.

Goal # 5
To be spontaneous, move beyond habit and add excitement to your date/sex life. Example call your spouse at work or home in the middle of the afternoon; and asks them on a date for two or three days later. On date not, you should do all the things you did prior to marriage, pull out the Victoria Secrets, draw the bath water, get the bottle of champagne, get a hotel room, you get the point. Don't be scared to something different and new.

Goal # 6
To surprise your spouse with anything, from jewelry, a weekend get-a-way, to something as small as walk in the park sharing an ice cream cone. Everyone loves a pleasant surprise. Surprises show you are thinking of them even when they are not with you.

Goal # 7
The next time it is your spouse's turn to do a chore you know they hate, do it for them, before they get a chance to do it themselves. Anything from picking up the dry cleaning even though it is 10 minutes out of your way - to getting up at 5 am to let Fido out on a Sunday morning.

Goal # 8
To compliments, compliments, compliments, give them freely and accept them graciously. To compliment your spouse to your friends - the nice things you said will get back to them.

Goal # 9
To flirt with your spouse every chance you get. Play footsie under the breakfast table, "help" them wash the dishes, a glance, a knowing smile, an inside joke, a gentle touch, all the things you did when you were trying to get them to notice you. It will still work after all these years.

Goal # 10
To get married, yes do it all over again for a special anniversary present. Recommitment and renewal helps to fortify the commitment of the relationship.

Marriage is hard work and requires work 24/7. To achieve happy ever after you must have goals in every aspect of your marriage; this includes the most intimate part of your relationship. Start TODAY, and keep the fire burning in your marriage by implanting the above goals. See how these goals will start flames to spread in all areas of your relationship.

Tawawn Lowe

Tawawn Lowe is a Personal Power Coach. She integrates personal development to identify and pursue passion and purpose. Tawawn helps to bring clarity to your life's purpose, unleash your personal power, confidence, commitment and inspire action. Are you ready to live a clear, directed and passionate life? - Tawawn Lowe